Taking A Stance Without Wearing Pants

As I was leaving my ward building Sunday December 9th, I announced to the bishop and others standing near me "remember that next Sunday is black tie Sunday", so don't act shocked when I stroll into church looking like I'm bout to go to the Christmas Ball with Jesus. I wasn't prepared for what was coming my way as a Sista in this church. On 12/12 a Wednesday facebook, twitter, and the social media highway was all a buzz about the up rising of Mormon Women. Everyone wanted to know who was wearing pants to church on Sunday? At first I thought it was a joke, it was not a joke, these Sista's were serious, they were actually gearing up to wear pants to church, on a Sunday. There was a whole facebook page dedicated to it, the news media was actually covering it, NPR reserved a whole 3 minutes to talk about it, WHAT?<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/proxy/AVvXsEhb6XpqRzaGXljyCgv5vzEvPSqk6aO4Z70p0nT0tB0ycaFN_UFGEMW5BQcqUtqXs_nCINf8EeLLU5cUQTMa9CfLanYEoAcAvSQPsocF4uoMphBFdTw9V8JfPU4HrOBE0rZAkO9hNc-g10SZ90Acqg5-fNwzAyli8JaXP6W4HmF-Y_4A7shMzcYtIpVrtWLFV4sepMk=" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="http://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-frc1/576356_10152308265915231_624707034_n.jpg" width="320" /></a><br /><div></div><div><br /></div><div>Sista Laurel and I have both at separate times in our lives worn pants to church we had no idea it was or could be seen as an act of defiance. We certainly had not worn pants in the past to be defiant. We wore pants because that's what we wanted to wear. When I wore my pants no one treated me in a negative manner. No one politely or impolitely for that matter asked me to leave the church because Mormon women don't wear pants. It was just business as usual, the opening prayer got said, the sacrament got passed, and responsibilities got handled. Some people looked at me strange, because it's not typical to see an LDS sister wearing pants to church but nothing rude was said directly to me, and I have yet to hear any reports that were bad. As I pondered the conversations that I'd participated in on facebook, twitter, and within my social circle. I started to feel somewhat fearful as to whether or not I would be judged by some of the women that I loved and respected if I chose not to wear pants to church on Sunday. In my real life, not my Sista Beehive life here in zion. I am very active in my community, I would consider myself a fighter for those who can't or don't know how to fight for themselves. I am one who speaks up, and these days when I speak up it's rarely for me or my children; Usually it's for someone else, someone who feels bullied in some way by  the system, or powers that be. I have even been invited to battles, and joined in only to find myself at the front of the line taking the blows until ultimately I am left alone in a fight I had not planned to participate in except  a friend tearfully asked for me to shoulder a burden, and I obliged.<br /><br />I don't know what a Mormon Feminist is, friends who claim to be have tried to describe the group to me but their description of themselves aren't even the same. So, I still don't really know not 100% what a Mormon Feminist is. For example, I know that I'm a woman, I know that I'm a Mormon, and I know that I'm African American/Black (both terms acceptable to me). I don't know that I am a Mormon Feminist, you understand what I'm saying? Although I've been told several times that I am, (of course I'm scratching my head on this one). As I read comments and had my own discussions it was clear that Mormon Feminist Women should stand together and they wanted all Mormon Women to stand with them they were asking for an act of solidarity. One of my running buddies asked "don't you want equality in the church? Don't you want to feel like you have a voice"? Now, clearly she is a running friend only and we don't attend church together because she would ask me completely different questions. She said "You can get all dressy any time, this Sunday is for Sista's, it's to say I'm here if you need me, I have your back, I got'cha, you know? Letting them know you will stand with them, that's all it's  about."    <b><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">REAL TALK: </span></b> I can't do all that in a dress? Where were these Sista's from? I know what the start of a fight looks like when I see one, and this <b><i>is </i></b>the start of a fight. Where I'm from it's better to fight in a pretty dress then to get bet up in one!<br /><br />After contemplating the pants issue I decided to dress up for Jesus. Dressing up for church was what I was taught to do, so I skipped wearing the original boring semi-formal dress that I was going to wear for something with a little more pop. The way that we dress in our church has been an adjustment for me as well, while it's not my desire to wear pants I like dressing up a little more then we do in our faith (especially in Utah) the women tend to dress a bit more casual then what I was exposed to in my youth. Which isn't completely bad, it's just different and I had to learn to adjust to things here and to this culture. However there are times when I have a desire to <b>DRESS</b> and when the mood hits I break out my "Holiness" outfits. They call attention to themselves, people at church always want to know why I'm so dressed up and I tell them "I dressed up for you and Jesus", they smile, I smile, all is well in zion.<br /><br />I decided that I wasn't going to dress down, but as an act of solidarity I was going to dress up. I wore a sparkly black tea length dress (black for the tragedy that happened in Connecticut), a red belt and red pumps for the season (although Sista Laurel would claim it was for the UofU), a few purple braids & purple eye shadow (you can't tell in the photo) purple for women suffrage: And all my fabulous accessories. In my wonderful outfit, I was prepared to stand next to any Sista that stood in need of a friend. In my red pumps I was ready to stand strong and call out anybody who had a negative thing to say to my Sista who came in her best slacks to worship with us at OUR Fathers House. In the best black dress I could find in my closet Sunday I was prepared. I was unsure and I was afraid, but I was willing to stand with ALL those who stood in need of a Sista and I knew that at the end of whatever fight (should one jump off) there were going to be other RIGHTEOUS Brotha's and Sistas standing with me and my sista(s) who decided to venture into the house of the Lord hoping to glorify His name, in the clothing of their choice, in a space that was comfortable for ALL of God's children.<br /><br /><br />** The good news is we were able to have a conversation with some of our Feminist Mormon Sista's it was eye opening. We got more information about the<b><i> Pants To Church Event</i></b>. What we discovered is there is a place and space for everyone, we just have to be willing to come to the table to have the conversation. The conversation was started it isn't finished yet so we will just leave it at<b><i> to be continued...</i></b><br /><b>The Conversation can be heard here on SiZ Radio: <a href="http://m.blogtalkradio.com/sistasinzion/2012/12/17/who-wears-the-pants-in-mormon-culture">Mormon Women Talk About Wearing Pants To Church</a></b><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />These are some of the Sistas that sat at our table:<br /><br /><a href="http://askmormongirl.com/">JoAnna Brooks </a> ~Ask A Mormon Girl<br /><a href="http://ablackmormongirl.blogspot.com/">Karyn Dudley</a> ~A Journal Black Mormon Girl<br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/WearPantsToChurchDay">Kristina Monson</a> ~ All Enlisted<br />La Shawn Schultz~A Sista In This Gospel<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /></div><br /><!-- Blogger automated replacement: "https://images-blogger-opensocial.googleusercontent.com/gadgets/proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2Fsphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net%2Fhphotos-frc1%2F576356_10152308265915231_624707034_n.jpg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" with "https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/proxy/AVvXsEhb6XpqRzaGXljyCgv5vzEvPSqk6aO4Z70p0nT0tB0ycaFN_UFGEMW5BQcqUtqXs_nCINf8EeLLU5cUQTMa9CfLanYEoAcAvSQPsocF4uoMphBFdTw9V8JfPU4HrOBE0rZAkO9hNc-g10SZ90Acqg5-fNwzAyli8JaXP6W4HmF-Y_4A7shMzcYtIpVrtWLFV4sepMk=" -->

Taking A Stance Without Wearing Pants

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SiZ Radio: Who Wears the Pants in Mormon Culture?

Sistas in Zion Radio! Every Sunday 5:00 p.m. - 7:00 p.m. (Mountain Time) Listen <a href="http://m.blogtalkradio.com/profile.aspx?userurl=sistasinzion&pt=12">here</a>. Mobile iOS users listen <a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/sistasinzion/2012/12/17/who-wears-the-pants-in-mormon-culture">here</a>. Call in at (646) 478-3671.<br /><div style="text-align: center;"><b>WHO WEARS THE PANTS IN MORMON CULTURE?</b></div>A conversation about gender equality, Mormon feminist and today's "Wear Pants to Church Day" event. <br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiaR3KV0Bzg2iPyVTKC_VwP2UgNvT_u7ABMKvC4gb4MseVFdbjkZELaaXK5eCLs7M2xwgV9jo8SBFUdHxbqnquJKlVdpgbDyZ8YQ91eEIprAZkUyK8arUf37zr4tmac9D9IVF9NM2O0RVM/s1600/184474_351094124988242_1766962184_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiaR3KV0Bzg2iPyVTKC_VwP2UgNvT_u7ABMKvC4gb4MseVFdbjkZELaaXK5eCLs7M2xwgV9jo8SBFUdHxbqnquJKlVdpgbDyZ8YQ91eEIprAZkUyK8arUf37zr4tmac9D9IVF9NM2O0RVM/s400/184474_351094124988242_1766962184_n.jpg" width="395" /></a></div><br /><br />

SiZ Radio: Who Wears the Pants in Mormon Culture?

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SiZ Radio: Hunter Schwarz of BuzzFeed + Mike Hall, BYU Basketball

Sistas in Zion Radio! Every Sunday 5:00 p.m. - 7:00 p.m. (Mountain Time) Listen <a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/sistasinzion/2012/12/10/buzzfeeds-hunter-schwarz-byu-basketball-coach-mike-hall">here</a>. Mobile iOS users listen <a href="http://m.blogtalkradio.com/profile.aspx?userurl=sistasinzion&pt=12">here</a>. Call in at (646) 478-3671.<br /><br />Tune in as the Sistas chat with <a href="http://www.buzzfeed.com/hunterschwarz">Hunter Schwarz</a> writer for <a href="http://www.buzzfeed.com/">BuzzFeed</a> and <a href="http://byucougars.com/staff/m-basketball/mike-hall">Mike Hall</a> Director of Basketball Operations at BYU.<br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg4ou7B91Dt2AxGNnRbYE2fhjk_cbBflkTO0Qqyq9GBqMs1edzXLVW40ZzCHBB-ZGhAq5FMLZLDq7T4P985meF_FoevxRyxxqP0ZhMUIDf13wBb78T9dO1iS1BuvWi-htu9h0kkwqQgQiI/s1600/Hunter+Schwarz.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg4ou7B91Dt2AxGNnRbYE2fhjk_cbBflkTO0Qqyq9GBqMs1edzXLVW40ZzCHBB-ZGhAq5FMLZLDq7T4P985meF_FoevxRyxxqP0ZhMUIDf13wBb78T9dO1iS1BuvWi-htu9h0kkwqQgQiI/s200/Hunter+Schwarz.jpeg" width="160" /></a></div><b>Hunter Schwarz</b> attended BYU where he studied journalism and political science. He is the oldest of nine kids and grew up in Arizona. Hunter worked for the BYU's  newspaper, The Daily Universe prior to starting an alternative off-campus newspaper. Hunter currently works as a writer at BuzzFeed "The Viral Web In Real Time".<br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7QYIoDgXCp2ICmBHhrmwGQzvp36Wy2GzQH4xFkgbyDQr6qVEKkMOTSmGr1OVKWB841AN_eIZ2Gy-U_ExLIsz9f4stNVj0g5Eyyv6PNM5FLuskHfj87Hx6-qzexpSq07W65NJ249CzPXA/s1600/Mike-Hall.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7QYIoDgXCp2ICmBHhrmwGQzvp36Wy2GzQH4xFkgbyDQr6qVEKkMOTSmGr1OVKWB841AN_eIZ2Gy-U_ExLIsz9f4stNVj0g5Eyyv6PNM5FLuskHfj87Hx6-qzexpSq07W65NJ249CzPXA/s200/Mike-Hall.jpg" width="143" /></a></div><b>Mike Hall</b> joined the BYU men's basketball staff in July 2010 as Director of Basketball Operations. A native of San Bernardino, Hall played for the Cougars from 2003-05 and has five years experience of professional basketball playing overseas and in the Continental Basketball Association. Mike Hall is married to Tara and the have three beautiful children.

SiZ Radio: Hunter Schwarz of BuzzFeed + Mike Hall, BYU Basketball

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Blacks in the Scriptures: Marvin Perkins

Sistas in Zion Radio! Every Sunday 5:00 p.m. - 7:00 p.m. (Mountain Time) Listen <a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/sistasinzion/2012/12/03/blacks-in-the-scriptures">here</a>. Mobile iOS users listen <a href="http://m.blogtalkradio.com/profile.aspx?userurl=sistasinzion&pt=12">here</a>. Call in at (646) 478-3671.<br /><br />Tune in as the Sistas chat with Marvin Perkins, co-creator of the <a href="http://blacksinthescriptures.com/">Blacks in the Scriptures</a> series. <br /><br /><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhv3-zCTvZQH-Bhwha2kFpXuZc4GoULFarsJ18-iq4HfILLzAaiRrLFwFL6r7DbIorFuITxXjCbCCLgh8TaZ4VdLWlfG3852b3ULyA_q2j92q_xK6yCaTW9BQ3PX8_tQ6SQhx_l1dSjmHw/s1600/Marvin+Perkins.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhv3-zCTvZQH-Bhwha2kFpXuZc4GoULFarsJ18-iq4HfILLzAaiRrLFwFL6r7DbIorFuITxXjCbCCLgh8TaZ4VdLWlfG3852b3ULyA_q2j92q_xK6yCaTW9BQ3PX8_tQ6SQhx_l1dSjmHw/s400/Marvin+Perkins.jpg" width="300" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Marvin Perkins, Co-Creator of Blacks in the Scriptures series</td></tr></tbody></table><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiKZqkMCWylnXTl6DAhqI9LgNdBCNcARkKv_Po79k7cFBNlgulyUB_PBk_3SG_58CK-QcsdQeZA-Dj9SXMHHo3BNvwA43N6Iy5ZKgcP1TjlQVtXI3ApsoaUh7wcK8nTMiXl40F914lpgII/s1600/blacksinscriptures2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="307" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiKZqkMCWylnXTl6DAhqI9LgNdBCNcARkKv_Po79k7cFBNlgulyUB_PBk_3SG_58CK-QcsdQeZA-Dj9SXMHHo3BNvwA43N6Iy5ZKgcP1TjlQVtXI3ApsoaUh7wcK8nTMiXl40F914lpgII/s400/blacksinscriptures2.jpg" width="400" /></a></div>

Blacks in the Scriptures: Marvin Perkins

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We all have something that we can be GRATEFUL for

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://static.guim.co.uk/sys-images/Guardian/Pix/pictures/2009/10/26/1256554277239/Family-saying-grace-at-Th-001.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="192" src="http://static.guim.co.uk/sys-images/Guardian/Pix/pictures/2009/10/26/1256554277239/Family-saying-grace-at-Th-001.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>Wishing you all a Happy Thanksgiving. We hope that you ate too much, loved and enjoyed family members for too long. And, found something to be thankful for! These two Sistas reminded us that we all have something to be grateful for. God Bless you! <br /><br />Listen to the show <a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/sistasinzion/2012/06/24/mariama-kallon-carly-ostler-with-byus-voices-of-courage">here</a><br /><div><br /></div><div><br />We'll be back next week</div><div><div><br /></div><div>Sista Beehive & Sista Laurel</div></div>

We all have something that we can be GRATEFUL for

Wishing you all a Happy Thanksgiving. We hope that you ate too much, loved and enjoyed family members for too long. And, found something to ...

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SiZ Radio: Mormon Daddy Style + The Dating Divas

Sistas in Zion Radio! Every Sunday 5:00 p.m. - 7:00 p.m. (Mountain Time) Listen <a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/sistasinzion/2012/11/19/mormon-daddy-style-the-dating-divas">here</a>. Mobile iOS users listen <a href="http://m.blogtalkradio.com/profile.aspx?userurl=sistasinzion&pt=12">here</a>. Call in at (646) 478-3671. <br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg20grYKip9qkE5Bnyo87lzDqF-lg3c1A0xdew7216P13Ck0DDisGYNPpIbj3xwjebFSneSr9kVrpX6QoA6ugZmcm0oZ3NETXFJC5F9a_Rjbi481-SEKXH7haQFj8uvRPZPj_ZYL4Psygo/s1600/Mormon+Daddy+Style+%2526+The+Dating+Divas.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg20grYKip9qkE5Bnyo87lzDqF-lg3c1A0xdew7216P13Ck0DDisGYNPpIbj3xwjebFSneSr9kVrpX6QoA6ugZmcm0oZ3NETXFJC5F9a_Rjbi481-SEKXH7haQFj8uvRPZPj_ZYL4Psygo/s1600/Mormon+Daddy+Style+%2526+The+Dating+Divas.jpg" /></a></div><br />Mormon Daddy Style is a parody of the hit music video and dance Gangnam Style. If you haven't seen either of them you can check it out <a href="http://www.sistasinzion.com/2012/11/gangnam-style-done-mormon-daddy-style.html">here</a>. Today the Sistas will be talking to <b>Micah Stubz</b>, the Mormon Daddy Style creator and feature dancer. Micah is a father who is happiest when he is spending time with family. He and his family do skits and vlog on YouTube. You can check Micah Stubz and his family out at <a href="http://www.micahstubz.com/">www.micahstubz.com</a> or <a href="http://youtube.com/micahstubz">youtube.com/micahstubz</a>.<br /><br /><a href="http://thedatingdivas.com/">The Dating Divas</a> are known for strengthening marriages one date at a time. We are all in for a treat because the Sistas will be chatting with two of the dating divas, Sarina and Julie. Get ideas for happy, healthy and loving marriages at <a href="http://www.thedatingdivas.com/">www.thedatingdivas.com</a>.<br /><b><br /></b><b>Sarina</b> is a Spanish-speaking, theater-teaching, ballroom dancer & Zumba instructor with a conviction of the importance of dating her love! She met her Prince Charming when she was 15 years old and 12 years later they created their own happily ever after.<br /><br /><b>Julie</b> is happily married to her very best friend and loves spending her time with him and with their sweet children. She is friendly, fun, and enjoys traveling to new places.<br /><br />

SiZ Radio: Mormon Daddy Style + The Dating Divas

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